Dead Rita's Wisdom is done. But my daughter in law just reminded me of a chapter I forgot. And it's about an expression Dead Rita used all the time. Whenever I said something to her about what I saw in her, she would say, "takes one to know one!" whether it was a positive comment on my part or not. SHE KNEW THE SECRET LONG BEFORE IT WAS THE SECRET!
So much is going on in the world. And so much is out of our control. I swear we must learn to hold on to what we know. And not forget that. And I often do. Not for long, but long enough to probably build up some plaque in my arteries. Just long enough for it to be a useless or worse, harmful exercise.
Surround yourself with people who demand the best from you. I was telling a friend that I have very few friends who have gotten divorced since I've been married for 27 years. (more family comes to mind than anything). But we were told 27 years ago by an Episcopal priest to surround ourselves with couples intent on being married. And not those who would give up at the first sign of trouble. And there's plenty of trouble in a marriage – I can attest to that. But by surrounding ourselves with couples who believe in strong relationships we have had that support and example for ourselves.
And dear Laura reminded me of this when I reminded her of how beautiful a spirit she has. And she said, "takes on to know one". How easy to reflect something when you know what it looks like.
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This is so true. At this age,36, I find myself wanting to surround myself with people that not only I benefit from, but people who benefit from me as well.
Kahlil Gibran said it best...
"Friendship is ALWAYS a sweet responsibility. NEVER an opportunity."
Friendship is not a number. Since when does the number of friends make you who you are?
I have few friends. But the friends I do have...I take it as a "sweet responsibility".
I am blessed to have Vic as my mother-in-law and my friend. Words would only camoflage exactly how I feel about you. We are better women because of you....thank you Vic!
I love you....
Laura
Love you too Laura. Family is so important and I get great joy from having you in my life. I am also better because of you. And I don't mean maybe! (DR strikes again!)
I remember when you mentioned this the other night at dinner & so I had to stop by & check it out!
I'm super excited to see my sistah in September, I've been telling lots of friends in NY about it so they save the date . . . course I titled the email save the date & they thought I was getting married - LMAO!!
Awesome post Vic. Thank you for that.
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