tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6708956564534327557.comments2009-04-20T15:00:39.550-07:00Dead Rita's WisdomVicky Traboshhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17500820592268769529noreply@blogger.comBlogger50125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6708956564534327557.post-1143312973008964472009-04-20T15:00:00.000-07:002009-04-20T15:00:00.000-07:00Dear Phyllis, I am so very sorry for your loss. ...Dear Phyllis, I am so very sorry for your loss. There is comfort knowing he is in heaven....how I sometimes wish those we love could be in both places.<br /><br />May the best of him live on in you - may his wisdom continue to shape your life and remind you of your love for him. And may you be comforted to know that by sharing your love he continues to love on through your words. <br /><br />Always,<br /><br />VickyVicky Traboshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17500820592268769529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6708956564534327557.post-7755908597925741282009-04-18T09:26:00.000-07:002009-04-18T09:26:00.000-07:00Victoria: Just catching up a bit on your blog ---...Victoria: Just catching up a bit on your blog --- good reading. You've benefited much from your mom's life.<br /><br />My dad died yesterday. While we were not close (physically) too often in later years --- yet still always had the warmth and clear, deep love for each other when we talked or met, he truly helped shape my life. He and my brother were my best friends as I grew up. Used to say he taught me more about business by 17 than others did later.<br /><br />Very good to know he's in heaven now.<br /><br />Blessings, <br />PhyllisPhyllishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151636411438294167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6708956564534327557.post-81497693470479415742009-03-01T21:35:00.000-08:002009-03-01T21:35:00.000-08:00Awesome post Vic. Thank you for that.Awesome post Vic. Thank you for that.Della Raehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16177271450945062083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6708956564534327557.post-50536615414478444302009-02-19T08:20:00.000-08:002009-02-19T08:20:00.000-08:00I remember when you mentioned this the other night...I remember when you mentioned this the other night at dinner & so I had to stop by & check it out!<BR/><BR/>I'm super excited to see my sistah in September, I've been telling lots of friends in NY about it so they save the date . . . course I titled the email save the date & they thought I was getting married - LMAO!!Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03375512448024903580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6708956564534327557.post-33227209334658911212009-02-08T10:33:00.000-08:002009-02-08T10:33:00.000-08:00It is not easy to see yourself fully. Because it'...It is not easy to see yourself fully. Because it's too easy to feel proud. And I want to be confident from who I am - not proud of what I've done. Because pride goeth before the fall. Be confident in who you are. In what you're capable of doing. And always know it was in you all along - so pride isn't ever necessary. And you will stay pure and humble.Vicky Traboshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17500820592268769529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6708956564534327557.post-75470112818098802112009-02-08T10:29:00.000-08:002009-02-08T10:29:00.000-08:00Love you too Laura. Family is so important and I ...Love you too Laura. Family is so important and I get great joy from having you in my life. I am also better because of you. And I don't mean maybe! (DR strikes again!)Vicky Traboshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17500820592268769529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6708956564534327557.post-67730213859282218292009-02-07T20:03:00.000-08:002009-02-07T20:03:00.000-08:00I find that many amazing women feel this way about...I find that many amazing women feel this way about themselves....<BR/><BR/>Why is it that it can be so difficult to see yourself as others see you?<BR/><BR/>Its not that I don't want to see myself that way...I want to see it, I do. But, if I do, will I remain humble in spirit? Will I stay pure of heart?<BR/>I will continue to try to see myself as others see me...with a pure and humble heart.<BR/>Great blog....thanks Vic !<BR/>Love youLaurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13704885047179416076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6708956564534327557.post-50231852386955435002009-02-07T19:55:00.000-08:002009-02-07T19:55:00.000-08:00This is so true. At this age,36, I find myself wan...This is so true. At this age,36, I find myself wanting to surround myself with people that not only I benefit from, but people who benefit from me as well.<BR/><BR/>Kahlil Gibran said it best...<BR/><BR/>"Friendship is ALWAYS a sweet responsibility. NEVER an opportunity."<BR/><BR/>Friendship is not a number. Since when does the number of friends make you who you are?<BR/>I have few friends. But the friends I do have...I take it as a "sweet responsibility".<BR/><BR/>I am blessed to have Vic as my mother-in-law and my friend. Words would only camoflage exactly how I feel about you. We are better women because of you....thank you Vic!<BR/><BR/>I love you....<BR/><BR/>LauraLaurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13704885047179416076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6708956564534327557.post-83510220576220029782009-02-03T17:12:00.000-08:002009-02-03T17:12:00.000-08:00Thanks Cindy - thanks - remembering her is powerfu...Thanks Cindy - thanks - remembering her is powerful - but it's time to post a bit of new wisdom - like a looonng twitter!! LOLVicky Traboshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17500820592268769529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6708956564534327557.post-25203142505582317642009-02-03T16:46:00.000-08:002009-02-03T16:46:00.000-08:00Wow! That was really powerful! Happy Birthday Ri...Wow! That was really powerful! Happy Birthday Rita! Thanks for sharing Victoria!Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18057586624766903613noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6708956564534327557.post-53881419189567475432008-11-25T08:37:00.000-08:002008-11-25T08:37:00.000-08:00apparently you're having your "thanks"giving day a...apparently you're having your "thanks"giving day a few day early :) I really hope this book comes out soon, so I too can read it!!!Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03375512448024903580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6708956564534327557.post-47945745067812140172008-10-27T11:46:00.000-07:002008-10-27T11:46:00.000-07:00so very true!so very true!Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03375512448024903580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6708956564534327557.post-32992058142610605922008-10-27T11:44:00.000-07:002008-10-27T11:44:00.000-07:00I need to leave work (it's nearly 7pm) and go ...I need to leave work (it's nearly 7pm) and go home & read that book for sure!Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03375512448024903580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6708956564534327557.post-84647688236708994412008-10-24T06:41:00.000-07:002008-10-24T06:41:00.000-07:00get that book proposal done, some of us are dying ...get that book proposal done, some of us are dying to read it!Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03375512448024903580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6708956564534327557.post-27810677995956036552008-10-23T09:45:00.000-07:002008-10-23T09:45:00.000-07:00can't believe I missed this post all those day...can't believe I missed this post all those days ago, but then again we were a bit busy (LOL)<BR/><BR/>missing my momma mudugudu (lol) and sistah heata a ton, especially at lunch today - check out my blog for details (BTW I used your "tree house" method, but for some reason I started up an English Oak & ended up on top of a Rwandan Acacia)Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03375512448024903580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6708956564534327557.post-54407151811871126662008-08-25T07:32:00.000-07:002008-08-25T07:32:00.000-07:00Love this post - living outside of the states nobo...Love this post - living outside of the states nobody ever asks me "what are you" because to them it's obvious, I'm American, but when I was in the US I remember everyone was always asking or pointing out their heritage. If I were to say I'm half German over here almost NO ONE would believe me since I was born in America to American born parents.<BR/><BR/>Also interesting since everyone seems to be very patriotic around the Olympics.Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03375512448024903580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6708956564534327557.post-47868067479153451632008-08-18T07:22:00.000-07:002008-08-18T07:22:00.000-07:00Thanks for the real and intimate sharing. This is ...Thanks for the real and intimate sharing. This is such an important topic. My son was 12 when I met my husband and I did attempt to give my son a choice. I wanted him to be on board and to see that there would be benefits to a new person being there for him as well. For that reason the whole process was slower but in the end it worked and they are really close now - 17 years later. I acknowledge that your situation was much harder because they were older and you were younger, plus four of them!<BR/><BR/>My son, who is now 29 has recently gotten involved with a women who is 39. It is really hard for him because he really loves her but feels he wants to be with someone his age. He wants children. She might- but... running out of time and they just met. He is aware of the challenges and lifestyle choices that go with the relationship. Great topic!Kaya Singerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09709212987490650021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6708956564534327557.post-19669575437410090832008-08-18T07:11:00.000-07:002008-08-18T07:11:00.000-07:00what a great story! can't wait to see you in just...what a great story! can't wait to see you in just over a month's time!!Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03375512448024903580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6708956564534327557.post-59555634890599058672008-08-17T13:59:00.000-07:002008-08-17T13:59:00.000-07:00Kind of....I wish we didn't want our partners to c...Kind of....I wish we didn't want our partners to change but we do. If we stay together we learn that they won't change for us - but we will change over time. I think the strong self concept you know in me now is NOT who I was at 24. But Dead Rita knew that I should carefully examine my reasons for choosing someone and the statement of "leave your world...." was the catalyst for the head conversation. I did it because I knew she was wise and I always listened to her. I didn't do (nor do I now) do a lot of "yes, but". We need to look for a partner that doesn't complete us, but is part of our life's puzzle. John is that piece. AND I knew at 24 that if I chose him, I was also choosing to become an instant parent to his children. They are the ones that get the raw deal. And because they have no say in their parent's choice, the incoming spouse must be the adult and realize that any love and respect must grow and is never a given. Thanks for commenting! I adore you and appreciate your thoughts! VicVicky Traboshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17500820592268769529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6708956564534327557.post-7215481454707829362008-08-16T15:09:00.000-07:002008-08-16T15:09:00.000-07:00I love, love, love your story. Great advice but re...I love, love, love your story. Great advice but really only useful for women who already have a strong self-concept as you do. I have seen other women "give up" everything for the wrong man. The ides is to not necessarily do it. If it's the right partner they won't want you to change anything to be with them. I guess your willingness was the point. <BR/><BR/>Beautiful story.Kaya Singerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09709212987490650021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6708956564534327557.post-90671889099856402752008-08-12T14:46:00.000-07:002008-08-12T14:46:00.000-07:00If you look up the word flourishWe might find your...If you look up the word flourish<BR/>We might find your picture.<BR/>Thank you for your e-mail too, it meant a lot. You inspire me to florish sooo muchBwillihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05087018235540968743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6708956564534327557.post-3823770327890595902008-08-06T01:51:00.000-07:002008-08-06T01:51:00.000-07:00glad you had your A game ready on Saturday :) so ...glad you had your A game ready on Saturday :) so sorry to hear laura can't make it, but i promised to take lots of photos to share with her & we'll be meeting up in london before i leave :)<BR/><BR/>okay, going to work on my A game now!Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03375512448024903580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6708956564534327557.post-59635858589733905712008-08-03T05:59:00.000-07:002008-08-03T05:59:00.000-07:00can't wait to hear how the weekend turned out,...can't wait to hear how the weekend turned out, both events sounds exciting! good luck & most of all have fun!!Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03375512448024903580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6708956564534327557.post-52407476413199689782008-08-01T21:56:00.000-07:002008-08-01T21:56:00.000-07:00The inspiration is mutual dear friend. And I love...The inspiration is mutual dear friend. And I love your blog! You are working so hard on your dreams - very cool - go girl!Vicky Traboshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17500820592268769529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6708956564534327557.post-47850650014738827642008-08-01T18:29:00.000-07:002008-08-01T18:29:00.000-07:00My dear Vicky, you inspire me so much with your ab...My dear Vicky, you inspire me so much with your ability to face your fear, and to be always that amazing women I know you to be. I have so much faith in your ability to make it all happenBwillihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05087018235540968743noreply@blogger.com